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April 22, 2013
by Maralee
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Guest Post: Specific vaccines and their effectiveness

(This is is the fifth in a series of guest posts by Dr. Mark McColl answering reader questions about vaccinations.  Please read my vaccine history and introduction of Dr. McColl before reading this post.  You might also like to read his earlier posts on his vaccination choices for his kidsethics and parental rightsdelaying vaccinations, and kids that need special consideration.)

Why are there so many more vaccinations today than 30 years ago?

The number of vaccines has increased over the years as the science and technology has advanced to allow for further and better protection.  Just car and airplane safety has increased with emerging technology, the science of building a vaccine against a deadly organism has advanced.  When certain specific markers on these organisms are identified the process of replicating those markers in such a way that our immune system can and will recognize them begins.  Many of the tried and true methods that are already in place are used but each vaccine is unique in what protection it provides.

It is very clear from the domestic and international data that as the number of organisms against which we are able to vaccinate increases the childhood morbidity and mortality rates decrease.

Why do our kids need to be vaccinated against chicken pox when we weren’t?

Childhood occurance of chicken pox (varicella zoster) infection used to be common place.  Many of us remember the “chicken pox parties” our parents organized to allow for the spread of the virus.  As a disease spread by respiratory particles merely being in the same room with an infected child is sufficient to cause infection.

Childhood infection itself is fairly miserable.  Common complications of primary varicella infection are things such as skin infection from invasive group A streptococcus bacteria (the same bug that causes strep throat can infect the skin), scarring of the pox marks, encephalitis (infection and inflammation of the brain), Reye syndrome (a form of liver failure often associated with aspirin use while infected), and pneumonia.

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April 21, 2013
by Maralee
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A Life in Status- April #3, 2013

(Come see for yourself)

Josh is working on memorizing the books of the New Testament. Tonight I had to explain to him that it’s First and Second Thessalonians, not First and Second FleshyAliens.
#churchkidproblems

Just taped a television interview and before taping:
Interviewer: So what’s your family like?
Me: We have four kids- three are adopted and one biological surprise.
Interviewer: Oh wow! I’ll put that in the introduction- you have three adopted and one of your own.
Me: Oh, sorry, don’t say “one of your own” since they’re all my own.
Interviewer: Thank you! I hadn’t thought about that. I’ll just say “one biological”.
Me: Thanks. I just didn’t want you to get any nasty emails about this.
Interviewer: I appreciate that.
Me: And also. . . I would be the one writing the emails.
#themoreyouknow

A big storm took out the power at our house tonight. Our daughter was excited when she opened the curtains to see the sun and yelled, “the outside power still working!” Why yes. Yes it is.

Daughter (sobbing): I not want my grama leave!
Me: I know but you can’t scream about it. You need to pull it together, Sweetie.
Daughter: I NOT KNOW HOW PULL IT TOGETHER! (more sobbing)
Truer words were never spoken.

Something my husband learned today: When returning home and seeing the crazy mess in the living room, it is probably best not to say, “What happened? When your mom was here this morning she had things looking good.”

The Baby’s first tooth decides to come in totally sideways. I guess because it’s so crowded in there? Oh wait. It’s not crowded at all.
We are an orthodontist’s dream come true.

Josh: You made mac n’ cheese AND taco salad?! You are the goodest mommy I could have ever asked for.
His love language is food.

(After having to discipline her)
Me: Honey, did you know I love you when you’re good? And did you know I love when you’re naughty, too? There’s nothing you can do to make me stop loving you.
Daughter: Mommy, (sniff) I love you when I naughty, too.
#melt

I opened the bedroom door to find my daughter listening to music and shaking her bootie quite enthusiastically. She said, “I shake my bootie in here. There no boys. I need privacy.” You go, Girl.
#prom2028

 

April 19, 2013
by Maralee
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Vaccination Guest Post: Whooping cough outbreak and kids who require special consideration

This is a series of guest posts by Dr. Mark McColl on vaccination issues.  Please read my vaccine history and introduction of Dr. McColl before continuing.  You can also read his previous posts on his vaccination choices for his kidsethics and parental rights, and delaying vaccinations.  These questions were all submitted by blog readers.  Enjoy!

Is the current whooping cough outbreak related to parents choosing not to vaccinate?

Yes.  For example, in 2011 in California, ten infants died after contracting whooping cough from their parents.  There were probably more children who contracted the disease from their parents but in these ten cases it was documented that their parents were encouraged and counseled to receive the whooping cough vaccination for themselves prior to the infant’s birth.  If their parents had chosen to vaccinate themselves it is very unlikely their children would have contracted the illness nor died from it.  Imagine the pain of these mothers when they look back on their decision and wanting to choose differently?

Benjamin Franklin had a similar experience with small pox killing his son, Franky.  He wrote “In 1736 I lost one of my sons, a fine boy of four years old, by the small-pox, taken in the common way.  I long regretted bitterly, and still regret that I had not given it to him by inoculuation [sic].  This I mention for the sake of parents who omit that operation, on the supposition that they should never forgive themselves if a child died under it, my example showing that the regret may be the same either way and that, therefore, the safer should be chosen.”

For children born very prematurely, is there wisdom in delaying some vaccinations to compensate for their adjusted age? Are vaccination risks greater for preemies?

For premature children the risk of remaining unprotected against preventable diseases is actually greater than for children born at term.  They lack much of the natural immunity delivered in the last month of pregnancy.  They certainly lack much of the nutrition given to them during that last month.  Most vaccinations do however have a weight limit for which it has been adequately studied.  In general, vaccinations are delayed until the child is at least 2 kilograms (4.4 lbs).  Practically this only applies to the Hepatitis B vaccine and is the data from which we established the weight limit.  There is no increased risk of adverse reactions to vaccinations in children born premature compared to full term children. Continue Reading →

April 18, 2013
by Maralee
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Vaccination Guest Post: Is there value in delaying?

(This is the third post in a series of guest posts by Dr. Mark McColl on vaccinations.  We don’t have to agree on this topic to still be sisters and friends.  I’m providing these posts as a source of information for those who are still doing research, not those who have their minds made up.  Please read my vaccine history and the introduction of Dr. McColl before proceeding with Posts 1 and 2 and then reading this one.)
What is the benefit of combining vaccines and is there wisdom in separating them out over time?
What are the risks of a delayed vaccination schedule?
 
It seems like part of our nature to try and make sense of drastically different viewpoints by compromising to a middle ground.  Somehow we believe that moderation is a better option than either extreme.  Right wing and left wing politicians need to come together somewhere in the middle to get things done.  Low fat versus low sugar diets are at odds with each other.  Isn’t it best just to eat ‘everything in moderation’?  This flawed logic argument is called the golden mean fallacy.  Either extreme makes us feel like we are drawing a line in the sand and choosing sides when really we just want everyone to get along.
In the vaccine debate there are those who say we should fully vaccinate our children on schedule and those opposed who believe that all vaccines are toxins to the body and should be avoided.  Many have taken the golden mean and proposed a slower schedule in an attempt to compromise.  But should we compromise?  Do we think compromise is good for other aspects of our children’s health and safety?
We believe our children shouldn’t have any arsenic in their school lunches.  We believe the bus driver shouldn’t have any alcohol in their system on the way to school.  We think the first ride in the car home from the birthing center needs to be in a five point harness of a car seat.  So in the debate on schedules we should look at it from what is a good idea for our children and not trying to find a compromise between two stated opposing viewpoints.
I believe that the soonest we can protect our children from a preventable fatality or injury we should.  That really is the basic idea behind the national and international guidelines for vaccinations.  The general thinking is why wait to do anything that can protect our children when it can safely be done now.  Some vaccines prevent against diseases which typically only affect certain age groups.  For instance Streptococcus pneumoniae and Haemophilus influenzae type b which both cause serious brain and blood stream infections most commonly occur in children under the age of five.  About 90% of these infections occur in children less than 2 years of age.  So it is advisable to receive these vaccinations as young as it is medically appropriate.

April 17, 2013
by Maralee
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Vaccination Guest Post: Ethics and Parental Rights

(This is the second in a series of guest posts by Dr. Mark McColl.  It’s best to read them in order.  Post 1 is here.)

In the vaccine debate, like so many other debates, proponents from each side seem to have overwhelming evidence for their cause.  It becomes very difficult for parents, patients, and the average person to know which choice is best.  Before we jump into answering some of the questions posed on evidence, effectiveness, and safety of vaccinations lets first talk about how to make the decision.  Not necessarily an argument to make a certain choice but rather how to make a decision and how we might respond to those who disagree.

What is a a parent’s ‘due diligence’ when it comes to vaccination?  Should they do their own research or only rely on their pediatrician? How can parents judge the quality of information they receive?

As a father I believe I have a moral and spiritual obligation to aggressively plan and pursue the welfare of my family.  I am shirking my responsibilities if I do not try to anticipate the needs of my family and attempt to provide for them.  I feel that is part of my role in life.  Interestingly, as a pediatrician this is the exact same obligation I have towards my patients and their health needs.

So as a parent I think we all ought to be researching and learning about the different choices with which we are faced for our families.  A parent’s due diligence for vaccinations is to look into understanding what the risk of injury, death, and disability is for each of the infections for which we have a vaccine.  We should try to understand the ‘why’ of the recommended vaccinations.  This sounds impressively hard at first but really isn’t if you think about it.  We do this all the time already for other things.

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April 16, 2013
by Maralee
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Vaccination Guest Post: Did I vaccinate my kids?

This is part 1 of a series of guest posts on vaccination.  Please read the post on my vaccine history and the post introducing Dr. McColl before continuing.  And know that whatever your opinions on this topic, we’d probably get along great in real life so try not to let this become a dividing issue between us.  If you’re looking for information, this is good information from a man of integrity.  If your mind is made up, I’m not intent on changing it.  This will not be a format for debate, so feel free to write responses wherever it is you do your writing, but we won’t have a big dialogue in the comments section here.

Dr. McColl is going to be very straightforward with you—much more so than I would be.  His words are not my words, but I also haven’t cared for kids who are suffering from a vaccine preventable illness.  I might be a little more direct after that experience, too.

Guest post by Dr. Mark McColl

So Maralee has asked me to write a few posts concerning vaccines and specifically to respond to some questions generated by you, her audience.  I’m really pretty excited to get to do this.  I got to know her and her husband when they gave me the opportunity to care for their little boy after his adoption many years ago.  Since then we have struggled through some hard questions (both about vaccines and others) while they were here and we’ve had the chance to stay in touch after they moved.  I wish I had had the chance to care for all their kids but apparently we don’t need any insurance salesmen in Tennessee.

Vaccines and children’s vaccination schedules certainly are a hot topic in our modern culture.  Many people are diligently trying to make a wise decision about how to care for their children but are concerned about certain aspects of vaccinations.  Most parents I run into aren’t set against vaccines per se, as one might be set against communism or cocaine use, but rather are worried that in light of their children’s health and apparent lack of exposure to these diseases they are increasing the risk of injury in their children rather than preventing it.  Most parents tend to believe that their children start out at a rather low risk of death or disability from infections and therefore don’t need much protection.  We know this is true from surveys and polls about many different topics from cancer risk to car accidents.  We have a bias towards optimism, perhaps not for others, but certainly toward ourselves.

What I try to contend for my patients is an understanding of the truth.  I don’t want to paint a grim and dreary picture if that isn’t the truth nor do I want to whitewash a problem that really needs to be addressed.  I want to strike the appropriate course of reality.  We stand at a crossroads.  If we choose path A we have a certain set of risks and benefits and if we choose path B we have a different set of risks and benefits.  There is not an option to stand still and not pick a path.  By doing nothing we have chosen already.

So the first question I’ll address it the most personal.  Have I vaccinated my own children?  Yes, I have.  Completely.  I have two school age children.  I have a beautiful blonde haired, quick witted daughter who has more musical talent when she snores than I ever had my whole life.  I also have a bright and creative poet for a son with a bazooka as a right arm to whom I am forced to apologize regularly for the genetically defected hair line I’m sure he is going to get.  Every fall I bring home the FluMist and administer it to them myself at our kitchen table.  I also plan on vaccinating my daughter against Human Papillomavirus (HPV) when she is old enough.

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April 14, 2013
by Maralee
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Vaccines- Who do you trust?

I’m the first to admit I’m a bit of an enigma.  I like my veggies organic, my plastic BPA free (or ideally, not plastic), my cleaning products all-natural, and my babies fully vaccinated.  I know that last one might seem like a non sequitur, but it isn’t for me.  I’m all about keeping my kids healthy and protected and I see vaccinations as an important part of that plan.  But I know it all comes down to who you trust.

I read an interesting article recently about how the more conservative you are the less likely you are to trust people.  It’s an interesting concept.  We believe in the depravity of man, so we’re pretty suspicious people.  We can see conspiracy theories around every corner and I know for me that also means I don’t want anyone to take advantage of me or see me as naive.  So I work hard to be sure I do my homework on hot button issues and don’t let anybody pull the wool over my eyes.

This became a serious issue for me when it came time to think about vaccinating my child.  Google and I had some work to do.  I was reading article after article and feeling more confused than when I started.  It seemed like each source had their own science to back up their claims.  It finally occurred to me one night that I couldn’t actually read myself into being a doctor.  I literally have someone on my team who I pay to handle this kind of research and information, but I have to trust them enough to involve them in my decision making.

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April 14, 2013
by Maralee
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A Life in Status- April #2, 2013

(Come watch life happen live)

We thought Danny was old enough to enjoy a National Geographic movie with computer animated dinosaurs. We were wrong. After watching a t-rex eat a smaller dino: “Mommy, that was his squeaky friend. I super scaaaaaaaaaared!”
#parentingfail

You know it’s been awhile since you’ve been on a date when 20 child-free minutes sitting next to your spouse during the Sunday sermon drinking coffee and eating purse candy starts to seem romantic.

Sometimes it’s good to check and see what your child packed in their lunch. You know- just in case they happened to pack a tupperware full of sour cream.
#withgreatpowercomesgreatresponsibility

Josh: Mom, I have a headache.
Me: Here, drink some water and see if that helps.
Josh: (drinks it) Nope. It didn’t go up to my head, it just went down.
Can’t argue with that logic.

Dear Precious Middle Son,
May your joys be as endless as you seem to believe our toilet paper budget is.
Love, Mommy

My child watched “Powerpuff Girls” and is convinced the evil monkey is named “Cookie DoughDough”. (Mojo Jojo)
I’m not sure why, but I’m pretty sure this is my fault.

I’ve spent the last couple afternoons furiously researching foster care laws in Nebraska and around the country in preparation for a meeting with one of our state senators next week. I’ve got to admit it- I love being a naptivist.

Child ran out toilet paper and decided to wipe with the empty cardboard roll. I’m not sure if I’m more disgusted or more impressed at those problem solving skill

Daughter (crying): Mommy, Danny took my schedule!! (a books she’d been carrying around with her)
Wait. . . are we sure she’s adopted?
#mommysgirl

Josh: Mom, I think for Father’s Day me and Daddy should eat hamburgers and pizza and watch something special like “Star Wars”. NO! Like “Prince of Bel Air”!
To each his own.

Word of Caution: When attempting to discern if a child has in fact pooped in their diaper and it occurs to you to pull open the back of their diaper to check, be very cautious about how far you put your finger into a suspicious diaper. You’ve been warned.

April 12, 2013
by Maralee
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Vaccinations- my introductory thoughts

Vaccination is a hot topic these days.  In Momland I feel like it’s one of those things-of-which-we-do-not-speak if we want to maintain relationships.  People have strong opinions and everybody has the facts to back up their side.  I want to be really clear about what I hope to accomplish by having a series of posts about vaccination.  I am not writing/hosting this series to try and convince those of you who are already firmly anti vaccination.  If that’s your opinion I don’t expect to sway you, so you’re free to read but know that if your decision is made in obedience to your convictions I support you even if I don’t agree and I expect you to give me the same respect.  I am hoping these posts can be a source of information for those who have questions and who are still making up their mind.  There are a lot of us who have tried to do the research, but have felt overwhelmed at the amount of information and wondered who to trust.  These posts are for you.

I want to acknowledge that there are friends of mine (and family members, too!) who believe differently than I do on this topic.  Passionately.  REALLY passionately.  That’s okay with me if it’s okay with you.  I don’t have less respect for you as a parent, I don’t think you’re necessarily doing something morally wrong (depending on your motivations which could be equally wrong for vaccinating or not vaccinating), and I don’t want you to decide you and I are different kinds of moms because we have different opinions on this topic.  Of course, I don’t think we can both be right.  At some point we have to decide who we believe and that’s part of what I’ll address in my next vaccine post.  I think the only way to help you see where I’m coming from is to give you a little of my vaccination history.

When we first became parents in 2007 I heard rumblings that there was a link between vaccines and autism, but wasn’t sure what that really meant.  As we boarded the flight to Liberia to pick up our son, I didn’t have a firm conclusion in my mind about what we’d do when the vaccination question came up.  A few days later as we waited in the US Embassy building to meet with the woman who would grant Josh’s visa I found myself bouncing a fussy baby on my hip and pacing around a bustling lobby.  I tried to occupy myself by reading some of the information posted on the walls.  I came to one wall that had maybe six posters, each listing some pretty horrific symptoms.  The title said, “Do you have” and then the symptoms were listed underneath.  To make this a little more graphic for you, the words were accompanied by pictures since much of the Liberian population is illiterate.  At the bottom was a possible diagnosis and then a number to call for help.  These were diseases I had only ever heard about in history books.  Not just tropical or exotic illnesses, but illnesses that have been entirely wiped out of the American consciousness because they are vaccine preventable.  It was that moment I realized part of my indecisiveness about vaccinations was based on my American luxury of great healthcare.

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April 11, 2013
by Maralee
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Baby Sign is THE WORST

More than one frustrated mom has looked at her grumpy baby and thought, “If only I knew what you were thinking!”  This is the moment where Baby Sign seems like a good idea.  I’ve done it with all four of my kids in varying degrees.  With my first child we worked on about a 20 word signing vocabulary.  This seemed to help him bridge the gap during the time where he wanted to speak, but was dealing with a language change from Liberian English to American English (VERY different in spite of both being English) in his environment.  With each child after the first I have started Baby Sign with them at around 10 months and have boiled it down to the very essential words that help make life go more smoothly (eat, more, all done, please, thank you, potty).  The benefit seems to peak at around 18 months where spoken language takes its place.  Although, sometimes my four year-old will still sign “more” when his mouth is full of something delicious.

Yes, Baby Sign is adorable.  Yes, it will clearly turn all children into geniuses.  Yes, we should all do it.  But Moms, I would like to argue that while you think Baby Sign is going to make your life easier, it is actually THE WORST.  Here’s why:

You didn’t actually want to know.  Baby Sign gives your child the ability to ask with specificity for things you can’t give them.  Now instead of wondering why he’s crying, you know exactly why—he wants more banana.  You know for various reasons you can’t just keep feeding him banana all day, but now you’re trying to use logic with a baby who is only capable of understanding that they just signed “more” and you are not giving them “more”.  It’s irritating.

It’s super adorable.  Behavior you wouldn’t tolerate from your verbal child now seems like the cutest thing that’s ever happened.  You’re angry, throwing things AND furiously signing for more applesauce?  Awwwwwww.  So cute.  Get that baby some applesauce.  You’re ripping at my shirt in public while I’m trying to talk to a friend AND signing “milk”?  Adorbs.  Here you go, Baby.  Instead of responding to the tantrum that’s being thrown, we just want to either give them what they want  either so they’ll be quiet or because we find their attempt to communicate so charming.

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